If you ask my children about their very first memories of arriving at the Kay Mari orphanage, they would say that it was meeting Djoulie. This sweet twelve year old girl could speak better English than almost anyone else at the orphanage. She was brilliantly smart, and shined with kindness that reached out to everyone. My very favorite memories of Djoulie are when she was playing dolls and tea party with Eliana and Olivia.
Djoulie had sickle cell anemia, which can cause bouts of severe pain and fatigue. Last week, she experienced complications of sickle cell and infections, and was rushed to a nearby hospital. Soon after, she was taken by helicopter to a larger hospital in Port au Prince to be given multiple blood transfusions and to be placed on a ventilator. Unfortunately, she became so gravely sick, and the doctors could not help her poor body to recover.
The entire time of her illness, Djoulie was surrounded by such love. Sister Florence, who is one of the most amazing women I have ever met, stayed by her side almost continually. She put her own life at risk, sleeping in a car at the hospital and navigating the city to make sure the doctors had the blood donations and supplies they needed. Sister was supported by other members of the mission here, who drove into Port au Prince to help her. Everyone back at the orphanage kept a continual vigil of prayer for Djoulie and her helpers. In fact, we heard of people praying for Djoulie in so many cities and countries all over the world.
My children had their very first experience with real grief this week. We prayed and prayed for Djoulie, and we warned them that she was very critically ill. When news of her death reached the orphanage, we could hear the cries of sadness all the way up the road at our house. Each of our children have experienced grief and responded in their own way: Emma is such a people-person. She has been spending as much time as possible at the orphanage, often just sitting silently with her arm around her little friends. Selah has quietly mourned, and also has been able to comfort and care for her little siblings during the stressful week. Eliana had the most difficult time with Djoulie’s passing. She misses her terribly, and she found it very sad to hear the cries of other people.
I spent most of the week keeping our little children away from the sadness at the orphanage. They attended a few minutes of the funeral mass, but mostly stayed home. After the procession and burial, we brought them quietly to the gravesite with flowers. They seemed to understand that their friend’s body is in the ground, but her soul is heading to be with Jesus in heaven. Olivia said, “I miss having tea parties with Djoulie.”
I cannot imagine how much the children and staff at the orphanage must miss sweet Djoulie. The sadness that we witnessed was overwhelming. However, after she was laid to rest, I also watched their strength and peace. We all know that we can’t help but rejoice for Djoulie. She has no more illness or pain! What an honor it has been to meet this amazing girl before she died, and to know that we will meet her again someday.
Our goal for our first month in Haiti was very simple – to get ourselves and our children acclimated to life here. (Easier said than done!) The first week was a joyful time of getting to know all of the children at the orphanage, touring the clinic and houses, and getting unpacked to settle in for a time in the upstairs missionary dorm at the orphanage. The next three weeks were a blur of sickness and trying to settle into a routine amidst ever-changing days. At least one or two members of our family were sick on any given day, and getting back into the structure of homeschooling was near-impossible, especially with the challenges of fatigued parents and a slow internet connection. Being present at the orphanage was a wonderful way to get to know the children and staff. But it was difficult to find privacy, and living out of suitcases with a family of eight (plus a puppy) in a single room was a challenge.
Soon, we were able to move out of the orphanage and into a rental house that is only a five-minute walk away. It has been such a blessing to our family to have a private space – we can more easily put our little kids down for a nap, prepare simple meals, and spend a few hours a day getting into the routine of homeschooling our older children. We all sleep in mosquito-net covered beds, which the children are tolerating very well! We are learning to keep all of our belongings packed away and clear of ants, cockroaches, and mice (and we are working on cutting down on those pests!). We have running water from a well and a reservoir, and usually enough electricity (via solar panels) to use all of our lights, fans, and even a working refrigerator! We have been so very grateful to even have working internet installed in our home, which has made it possible to communicate with each other even if one of us is not home, and with friends and family back home. Unfortunately, our internet connection is not quite fast enough for our oldest girls to continue taking homeschool classes through the program they had started in Texas. We put together a modified curriculum of books that we brought with us, several online books, as well as daily Bible reading and Creole lessons. Several of our homeschooling friends have been so generous and kind to send us some of their used textbooks, which we hope will arrive on our next delivery on Agape Flights (the missionary airplane service that supports missionaries in the Caribbean with mail services and aid). Our kids will be excited to have new books to read!
The very kind cooking ladies at the orphanage have been checking on us every day, and helping to stock our kitchen with food: we now have a steady supply of coffee, bread, peanut butter, and pasta to cook when our children need a meal. We have been able to supplement that food with our own orders of food that come through Agape Flights. Agape organization is such a life-line, in which we can send and receive mail and order necessities such as medicine and household supplies. Our young children are especially grateful for the nuts, raisins, and oats that we ordered from Walmart so that they can have a familiar snack or meal. (We do have to be careful to stay in budget when ordering items through this service, because we pay additional charges for air shipping, as well as in-country custom fees.)
A very wonderful Haitian woman is helping in our home, cooking alongside me in the kitchen and helping us with laundry several days each week. She is most comfortable cooking outside in a charcoal kitchen, and I do the cooking inside on a stove with propane tank. She is very willing to work around our children, and to allow them to watch and help her with tasks. One thing that Haitians are very good at is making a meal out of a hodgepodge of inexpensive ingredients. The other day, she found some plantains growing in a tree in our yard. She cooked a fabulous lunch of boiled plantains, with a meat sauce that she made out of a small amount of summer sausage and some ketchup. Apparently every Haitian cook is a saucier!
Our children are doing so well with this transition and adjustment. Sometimes, especially when they are feeling sick with a stomachache or fever, they express deep homesickness. I help them talk through those feelings. Each time, it has been very temporary, and they have been eager to get back to their friends at the orphanage and to be involved in life here. Our little children have had some difficulty sleeping and eating the Haitian food when they don’t feel well, but they are even settling into a more consistent routine. Whenever we spend time at the orphanage, our children can be found playing games of tag, hide and seek, swinging, and just walking around with their Haitian friends. It is still a challenge to communicate with each other, but children are quite adept at finding a way to play despite the language barrier. Our older girls are improving with learning Creole, and can now say a few more words than simply “bonjour” and “mesi”.
It is hard to believe that we have been here for an entire month. There have been so many changes, adjustments, and ups and downs (all of that with the normal chaos and drama of life with six children!). What is our plan for our second month here? Of course, it is often difficult to plan in a country where shopping, transportation, and communication often is slow or non-working. However, we do have several goals: Ryan is observing and consulting with the mission’s administrators. My primary task is to provide a stable home for our children – to keep them safe, healthy, well-fed, and learning! I also hope to begin teaching health classes this month. First, I will present the material to the doctor and nurses, and offer the public health and natural family planning classes to patients at the clinic. I can also then expand those classes to the other employees of the mission here, and the older children at the orphanage. I’m so excited to have a small contribution to make here.
That’s our update from the first month in Haiti! Thank you to all of our friends and family for watching and praying with our family during this time. 🙂
Life can be difficult in Haiti, especially when it comes to doing chores. In a country where it can be hard to find clean water or soap, the people here have done an amazing job; making their own brooms, stoves, and public wells. I’d like to show you some other things these remarkable people have done to survive here in Haiti.
Cooking in Haiti is one of the most important chores, yet also one of the most difficult. Not many people have gas stoves and ovens, and anyway, there’s no Walmart in order to buy propane. So what do they use for stoves? The most common substitute is a charcoal fire. Perhaps a little slower than a gas stove, but it works! Just the other day, our housekeeper made us a delicious lunch of boiled plantains and fried sausage and a very good sauce. She did the whole thing outside on a charcoal fire!
Laundry is another thing that is both very important but very difficult in Haiti. It’s pretty fascinating to watch the ladies do it. They usually have two or three big tubs, a bar of lye soap, and water from the nearest pump. They rinse the clothes, then scrub them all over until there’s more suds than water. I asked them once how long you had to scrub each piece of clothing. They responded, “Until you go all the way around.” So… I guess you have to keep track, or something? After wringing out the garment, they rinse it, then wash it again. This is followed by another rinse, and then hanging the clothes out on a clothes line. This process generally takes most of the day, and the clothes have to be left out all night to dry, and are usually collected around noon the following day. It’s a pretty big job, but it’s always done with love!
A smaller chore here in Haiti that must be done is sweeping. The roads are dusty or muddy, and welcome mats don’t seem to exist here, so a broom is essential. To buy a good broom, you could walk for a few days to the nearest store… or, you could just make one! So, most of the brooms here are handmade. Some of these brooms actually surprise me by how well they work. Most of them are made out of grasses, twine, or sticks. There is no such thing as a dustpan here, so the dirt gets swept out the door.
Most people don’t have running water in their homes, so they carry water in jugs from the nearest well. This is usually the job of the children. Sadly, many elderly who live alone must cary their own water, sometimes for a few miles. Haiti180 mission teams sometimes help the elderly or disabled by bringing them clean water, so they don’t have to use dirty river water.
Although there are many chores to do in Haiti, four of the most important are cooking, laundry, sweeping, and carrying water. People here have found remarkable ways to get what they need and to make do with what they have. I am always so surprised at how they do it. People from all over the world would benefit from knowing about how these chores are done by a people who have so little.
Cooking in Haiti is very different then cooking at home. First of all they do most of their cooking outside – they hardly ever use the stove! Second of all, they cook very different foods than in America, and often eat the same things over and over again.
Cooking outside also looks different. Homes in Haiti are very small with hardly anything inside except for a bed, so everyone has an outdoor kitchen. Usually, if you look out on the mountains you might see smoke and someone is making charcoal or dinner. They usually have a container for charcoal, pots and pans, and a container for water. They often do not have an refrigerator.
In Haiti, they eat different things because in the country there are not many stores. They have to go to the local market and buy cheap things like pasta, rice, and beans. They also use foods that grow on trees here, such as oranges, bananas, plantains, mangoes, avocados, papayas, and breadfruit. They usually fry or boil there food.
In conclusion, I like to watch and help cook. I like to eat the food, but I would not want to work in an outdoor kitchen every day.